Child Custody: Reasons Not to Move Away

When it comes to the subject of divorce, there’s one thing that is a constant and it is change. If you’re a parent who is on the road to divorce, you may not realize it but your life will probably look very different five years from now, which brings us to the topic of child custody and any thoughts you may have about moving away from your kids.

This article is targeted toward noncustodial parents, the parents who have the children less of the time and the ones who pay child support. If you’re getting a divorce and you’re considering moving to another county or state while your children stay in the San Diego Area, we have some insight to share with you.

Why Not Move Away?

Noncustodial parents move away from their children for a variety of reasons, such as a job transfer, a remarriage, to move closer to family, or for a change of scenery. If you’re considering moving several hours away from your children or even to another state, you may want to think twice before you make such a big move and here’s why:

  • It can be very difficult to keep a close relationship with your children if you move far away.
  • Your children could resent you for leaving them.
  • Your relationship can be permanently impacted by the move.
  • If your ex is not nice, he or she could badmouth you to the children about the distant move, a form of parental alienation, and you may never be able to repair the damage.
  • Days and weeks without seeing your children can turn to months and before you know it, you’re only seeing them once or twice a year.
  • Airfare and long road trips to see your children can be costly and if something happens and you can’t afford it, you won’t be able to see your kids.
  • You could miss important events and milestones like dance recitals, baseball games, Christmas performances, wrestling matches, soccer games, and the like.

For every noncustodial parent, staying physically close to their children and moving far away is always a choice. If you are considering moving far away because of a new relationship or a new job, you may want to think twice about that decision. Would moving be in the best interests of your children? Would a long-distance move harm your relationship with your children?

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On the other hand, do you have the determination and financial resources to make a go of it? If you have any questions about a move away action, we invite you to contact our firm to discuss your concerns and the possible outcomes of each option.