Earlier this month, we published a post entitled,
“Shocking Things About Divorce.” This month we decided to come out with a sequel where we share even more
insight about what happens behind closed doors. If you can relate to these
issues discussed below and you’re seeking
divorce advice, don’t hesitate to contact our firm for guidance.
1. If you marry young, your chances of divorce are higher.
In the United States, 59 percent of women who marry before the age of
18 will be divorced before their 15th wedding anniversary. For women who
marry at the age of 20 or older, the rate of divorce drops down to 36
percent, according to “Cohabitation, Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage
in the United States,” by M.D. Bramlett and W.D. Mosher.
Regardless of age, the rate of divorce for first marriages is 40 to 50
percent, according to
Psychology Today. If you’ve been divorced once already, your chances of divorcing
is higher with each subsequent marriage.
2. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus.
When it comes to how the sexes approach divorce that is. In our experience,
men tend to want to get things over with, while women need more time to
think things through. Women are usually concerned about security, so they’ll
place a great deal of focus on
spousal support, housing, health insurance, life insurance, and taxes. Men tend to be
less detail-oriented, which can lead to clashes.
3. Your social media posts can haunt you.
These days, divorce attorneys turn to social media for evidence. If you’re
child custody or spousal support, your social media posts can hurt your divorce case.
For example, if you’re a man who’s arguing that you can’t
afford spousal support, posting a pic on Facebook of your new Ford F-450
or you vacationing in Hawaii with a beautiful, twenty-something will NOT
help your case.
4. This is the secret to successful co-parenting.
The fear of
parental alienation strikes fears in the hearts of parents on the verge of divorce. If you
have minor children with your spouse and you’re afraid, perhaps
terrified of the divorce ruining your relationship with your children,
we have good news. It is possible to have a great bond with your children
after divorce. The secret? It all comes down to having a
good relationship with the other parent. If you and your soon-to-be-ex can get along for
the sake of the kids, you can develop a healthy and thriving co-parenting
relationship. One where your relationship with your children remains strong.
Contact Claery & Hammond, LLP to meet with a San Diego divorce lawyer for free.